Do you love yourself? Well, how does one know that they love themselves? To answer that, ask yourself these questions: Do you thing you're beautiful although you're not society's definition of beautiful? Are you okay with your weight? Do you think you're a good person? Do you believe that you deserve good in your life? Do you accept your faults? Do you not take crap from people, especially in a relationship? If you answered yes to any of these questions then I'd say you love yourself.
If you answered no to any of the above questions, maybe it's time to take a long look in the mirror and start working on what you don't like about yourself. Some things you can change, i.e., your weight and some aspects of your personality...some things cannot be changed such as life experiences and anything genetics controlls. If it is something you can change, get to work! If there is something about yourself you don't like that is beyond your control, learn to accept and love that about yourself. If you cannot do that on your own, a counselor or therapist can help you.
Why is it important to love yourself? In the wise words of RuPaul, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else?" Loving yourself will protect you (in most cases) from bad relationships, friendships, and bad life decisions. You'd probably stay away from using substances because you feel good anyway. You won't use sex to feel good about yourself because you know that you need more than sex to be satisfied. You're less likely to have bad people in your life because you know that you deserve good people in your life and drama doesn't do you any good. If you love yourself, you won't settle for being the friend with benefits or the side chick. You won't let your partner hurt you in any way: physically, emotionally, psycholgically. If you love yourself, you'll walk away even though it's going to hurt like hell for a long time. Self love is the best shield from harm and drama.
This Valentine's Day, be your own Valentine regardless of your relationship status. Make a commitment to love yourself and see how things change for the better in your life.
Take care,
-Kimmy
If you answered no to any of the above questions, maybe it's time to take a long look in the mirror and start working on what you don't like about yourself. Some things you can change, i.e., your weight and some aspects of your personality...some things cannot be changed such as life experiences and anything genetics controlls. If it is something you can change, get to work! If there is something about yourself you don't like that is beyond your control, learn to accept and love that about yourself. If you cannot do that on your own, a counselor or therapist can help you.
Why is it important to love yourself? In the wise words of RuPaul, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else?" Loving yourself will protect you (in most cases) from bad relationships, friendships, and bad life decisions. You'd probably stay away from using substances because you feel good anyway. You won't use sex to feel good about yourself because you know that you need more than sex to be satisfied. You're less likely to have bad people in your life because you know that you deserve good people in your life and drama doesn't do you any good. If you love yourself, you won't settle for being the friend with benefits or the side chick. You won't let your partner hurt you in any way: physically, emotionally, psycholgically. If you love yourself, you'll walk away even though it's going to hurt like hell for a long time. Self love is the best shield from harm and drama.
This Valentine's Day, be your own Valentine regardless of your relationship status. Make a commitment to love yourself and see how things change for the better in your life.
Take care,
-Kimmy
Loving yourself if the first thing you need to do before loving someone else.
ReplyDeleteYou know what I really miss my old self, it's been a while since I haven't tried being single and I really miss it. I'm not complaining that I'm not happy with my boyfriend's side I just need sometime because half of myself changed a bit!