I've been MIA (school kicked my butt so I had to take a time out to regroup) but I'm back now!
I want to talk about breakups a little bit...
They hurt (a lot)...it's miserable...I would not wish such pain on anyone.
There are people who feel like there's no point in living when a relationship ends HOWEVER I'm here to tell you that your life does not end when your relationship does!
The end of a relationship is a lot like a loved one dying...the pain is similar and you may find yourself asking "Why?". Because of this similarity, I say that you have to give yourself time to grieve the end of a relationship. Allow yourself to feel the anger, sadness, hurt, confusion so it gets out of your system. The thing with emotions is that they come and they go...they're not permanent.
After a breakup, it's good to have some friends or family to lean on and be an ear for you to vent. They could be old friends or new ones. The best way to get through any rough patch in life is a solid support system.
Use a breakup as an opportunity to gain a life lesson out of the relationship. When something goes wrong, those times are the best life lessons. You are never too old to learn so figure out what you needed to learn then move on.
Although you must grieve and learn from a breakup, do not allow yourself to sink in your depression. Keep away from triggers (songs, environments, etc.) that may make you feel any sadder. If the sadness does not go away after a few months or you are so sad you begin to feel hopeless, reach out to your doctor or a counselor because there may be something more serious going on.
Some people may feel that no one else will be able to love them after a relationship ends but this is not the case at all. If you grieve, surround yourself with positive people and things and learn from your mistakes of the past relationship, you put yourself in a position to allow someone new who is better than the last partner. Never, never, NEVER give up!
If you're going through a breakup, hang in there because believe it or not, it gets better!
Until next time,
-Kimmy
I want to talk about breakups a little bit...
They hurt (a lot)...it's miserable...I would not wish such pain on anyone.
There are people who feel like there's no point in living when a relationship ends HOWEVER I'm here to tell you that your life does not end when your relationship does!
The end of a relationship is a lot like a loved one dying...the pain is similar and you may find yourself asking "Why?". Because of this similarity, I say that you have to give yourself time to grieve the end of a relationship. Allow yourself to feel the anger, sadness, hurt, confusion so it gets out of your system. The thing with emotions is that they come and they go...they're not permanent.
After a breakup, it's good to have some friends or family to lean on and be an ear for you to vent. They could be old friends or new ones. The best way to get through any rough patch in life is a solid support system.
Use a breakup as an opportunity to gain a life lesson out of the relationship. When something goes wrong, those times are the best life lessons. You are never too old to learn so figure out what you needed to learn then move on.
Although you must grieve and learn from a breakup, do not allow yourself to sink in your depression. Keep away from triggers (songs, environments, etc.) that may make you feel any sadder. If the sadness does not go away after a few months or you are so sad you begin to feel hopeless, reach out to your doctor or a counselor because there may be something more serious going on.
Some people may feel that no one else will be able to love them after a relationship ends but this is not the case at all. If you grieve, surround yourself with positive people and things and learn from your mistakes of the past relationship, you put yourself in a position to allow someone new who is better than the last partner. Never, never, NEVER give up!
If you're going through a breakup, hang in there because believe it or not, it gets better!
Until next time,
-Kimmy
