I had to learn this one the hard way...
To make a long story short, it's a bad idea to have friends with benefits/ fuck buddies because here's what is going to happen: one person is going to catch feelings and the other isn't going to reciprocate. Ladies, men are capable of having sex without feelings. They are programmed to work that way. I don't know why...It is what it is. If you choose to have a FWB/FB situation for whatever reason, your best bet to to make it a short-term deal 90-120 days tops (and PLEASE use protection!!).
DO NOT EXPECT ANYTHING MORE TO COME OUT OF THE ARRANGEMENT...ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
Because a relationship is not going to bloom from it. Ever. Nope. I can assure you 12 times out of 10 the other person has someone lined up to be their main partner. They're just busting their nut, biding their time until they get the "boyfriend/girlfriend" title from the person they want to be with. If you can't handle a FWB/FB psychologically or emotionally, don't do it...you're only setting yourself up for failure and the other person is NOT sweating you at all.
If you have a friend who you're considering making a FWB/FB arrangement with, ask yourself "Am I okay with losing this person as a friend?" if the answer is no, don't do it! Good friends are hard to come by already don't lose one because you gotta get off.
If you can keep it short and not develop feelings, FWB/FB may be for you however proceed with caution. You may be worse off than how you were before when you were just horny.
Take care,
-Kimmy
I agree with you that friends with benefits is really a bad idea. It's true that you can really get pleasure from it but when you fall inlove with that someone and he don't feel the way as you do you'll end up hurting and regretful. Just like the movie friends with benefits it's a nice movie and you can really get a moral lesson from it. Though they started it with a game they end up happily because the boy is really inlove with the girl. At first, he didn't realize but when the girl is already gone he missed her presence. Lucky those people who end up living happily though they're just friends with benefits. How about some who are not that lucky?You are the one making your own suicidal act when you enter this kind of game.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this one.
100 % true , Nice post many could relate to this.
ReplyDeleteIronicly I'm a guy who has had gals make this offer at times in the past. Usually was a bad idea for the same reason, though ironically sometimes it was I who developed the feelings.
ReplyDeleteThat isn't irony.
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